Thursday, April 8, 2010

If you could reset your life, would you? What would you do different?




I have a Yahtzee game on the sink in my bathroom and I relax while I'm playing it, making my visit there easier. When I don't like the way the game's going I reset it. That made me think, what if we didn't like what was happening in our lives and we could push a button and reset ourselves. Would you like to go back to a different time in your life? If so where? What would you do different? Would you make new choices? Sometimes it is fun to play with this, but sometimes it is also better to leave the past alone.

Obviously we can't go back and change anything, but we can start where we are and make new choices. Today is a new day! Actually I don't feel any of my choices have been wrong, they brought me to where I am now and that is who I am!

If I could go back I think I'd return to when I was in my 30s, but I'd have to know what I know today or I wouldn't go there.

I'd love to hear what you would change if you could, or what changes you could make now?

11 comments:

Julie said...

Oh yes. I'd push the reset button on my marriage! No doubt in my mind....

Velveteen Rabbit said...

I agree with you both. My 30's because that was a time I look back on and was actually still happy (or was I just so busy playing Mummy and housewife I didnt notice not being?).
And a reset on my marriage, I either wouldn't do it, or not so soon, or would do it differently.

But I do agree Jean Maurie that its our pasts that have made us the people we are today....
Is that such a bad thing?

Jean Maurie (angelsloveyou) said...

Oh wow, thanks for the comments Julie and Velveteen Rabbit. I really appreciate your postings.

Pushing the reset button on your marriage brings up a lot of thoughts. I know I'd do some things different for sure !!!

I was too darned scared to be happy when I was a new mother and wife. I tried so damned hard to do everything "right" that I wouldn't let myself enjoy it. I regret that big time but I can't do it over. I'd have to go back to my 20s to reset that one.

But no it isn't a bad thing to be who we are today - as long as we are happy with it. If not, then ... That calls for another blog.

Intense Guy said...

Thank you for stopping by my blog.

Hmmm... You pose a tough question!

I would only go back if I could know what I know now... and I would want to go back to the time where my Grandmother was sick - and I avoided her because of that - and instead, gone to visit her much more often and just said I loved her and told her how much I appreciated her and everything she did for me.

If I went back, I might also try to date a couple women I was "just friends" with - because I didn't understand their religion and didn't tolerate it much... I'm much much more open minded now.

I don't know if this would have changed my life a whole lot - but it would have let me live with a less guilt.

Lorielle said...

Great idea. :) Stop the insanity I want off right here and I'll take the next train out of the station instead. :)

Jean Maurie (angelsloveyou) said...

Thank you for following me too Intense Guy :) I know what you mean about guilt. I think we all feel some. I also avoided someone but I also forgave myself because at that time I was not strong enough to handle the emotions of it. I'm not sure any of us will get out of this world without guilt. I also agree about not going back unless I could go knowing what I know now. :)

Jean Maurie (angelsloveyou) said...

Lori you taking the train huh! How about just beaming yourself off? That would be much quicker, or do you want to sight see on the way? LOL

Xmichra said...

I know it's cheesy, but i wouldn't go back. It would change things for how they are now, and i love where things are now. Minus the snow maybe..lol..

Jean Maurie (angelsloveyou) said...

Xmichra, hope your snow leaves soon. It probably will. I don't want to go back either and its a good thing because we really can't. But we can heal the past.

I'll be writing about that in a future blog :) Thanks for posting!

gayle said...

I would go back many many years ago if I could but I would want my same kids and grandchild!!

dana said...

Sadly, I find it necessary to play this game nearly every day. Not much has gone well for 50 of my 60 years and I keep thinking back to the day when I might have had a chance to avoid so much pain and tragedy, but that always leaves the question: would I end up having the last eight years (and ONLY 8 years out of 60) be the happy ending that it finally became? Or could I have had an entire life avoiding the horrors.